Like in the majority of romantic movies, where the happy end arrives when the couple finally gets married, some people think that it is important to meet the right person for them and then they will finally can relax and enjoy life together forever... The first surprise comes when two people begin to live together, as it is very different when you just date and see each other in the evenings, or even spend together the whole weekend sometimes, from when you live and stay together 24/7. Here you begin (very quickly) to learn if you are really compatible with your partner...
Wikipedia describes compatibility as a long term interaction between two individuals in terms of the ease and comfort of communication. So before to live together, you knew what was your physical/character compatibility with your partner and what interests and attitudes you had in common. And when you begin to live together, there are new kinds of compatibility to discover, like temperament, biological rhythms, the habits of everyday life, whether you have the same attitude to role distribution in the household, whether you feel comfort having your partner all the time near you, etc.. Of course it is not possible that two people find 100% compatibility in all aspects, so the compromises should be made.
Here comes one of the most essential component leading to successful relationship - communication. And not only about general things, it is very important to talk about everything, about your interests, about how was your day, about all your problems and fears, about your dreams, plans and fantasies, it is fundamental to share your world with your partner, of course in a mutual (don't speak only about yourself, show interest in your partner's life also, ask questions) and ongoing way, but it is also necessary to talk about the relationship itself, about your feelings, about your doubts, about what makes you happy in relations and what instead you would like to change... There is no need to say, that communication should be absolutely open and honest, as only in this way it will lead to the reliable platform for the relationship - trust. Of course trust should be built during a long period of time to be solid, and sharing your past with your partner is one of the ways that helps this process, also you never know how your/your partner's past can interfere with your relationship in the future.
When it comes to everyday routine life, sense of humor really helps, it is great to see couple who joke with each other or laugh together.... of course, it depends on whether you have sense of humor or no, I don't know if there are ways to develop it, but if you have it, you should absolutely use it not only with your friends, colleagues and others, but also with your partner (even after many years of living together)...
At the end, having all the components mentioned above, including also respect, healthy personality, active sex life with your partner (faithfulness and fidelity included)...and even good luck (as it is not so easy to find a partner who will be able to work constantly on relationship and with whom you can have all the components) will increase the quality and the closeness of your relations and will surely help your loving and caring relationship to keep going... Maybe someone will think that these are too many sacrifices and efforts to make, but beyond the shadow of a doubt, the result is well worth it.
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